Posts by In Between

Welcome ... I'm a newbie here too ... but from what I've read, most everyone here is pretty cool. They listen and they understand, because they have been there too.

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focus on being a Jehovah witness???

by Jade221 in

i had an experience a couple of days ago.

me and my bf broke up he is a jw and i am not.

we were togehter for a while and it was a good relationship and out of the blue he says to me i think its better if we just break up.

Sorry to hear about your story ... but to be honest, much like the other responses you've recieved here, being in a 'mixed' relationship will not work. I know, because I once was a J.W. but have since 'faded' away while my wife is still somewhat involved . Since I am no longer active in the faith, slowly but surely, the gap has widen in our marriage. You have to have a strong common thread to make any relationship work. And even though we still have feelings for each other, we have had several conversations as of late, and would not be surprised if we seperated in the near future. We are just headed down different paths now.

By not continuing this relationship, you'll never have to worry about getting to that point yourself.

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My mom is stepping up her not-so-subtle mind games with kids.

by ithinkisee in

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my mom and her new husband (robo-elder with gb connections) have been trying to undermine us as parents so i have been on the offensive stopping it.

we recently left to another state to get away from the jws.

she has been sending letters to my oldest daughter about the assembly.

In Between

It seems to me like a 'control' issue. She can't control you anymore, so she's going after the kids.

I see similar stuff like this with my mom and my kids. She knows she can't do anything about me, so the one 16 year old, that lives with his mother, gets all the 'extra' attention because he's the only one attending a K.H.

Sorry to hear about your stresses. Hang in there. The family break-ups that I have seen because of this faith is alarming.

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How about them Beavers?

by Carmel in

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oregon st. baseball team takes college world series by beating the best pitching staff in college baseball, the nc tarheals!.

carmbbbbbbb

In Between

As a pac-10'er ... all I can say is CONGRATS OSU !!!

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Love is eroding away in the Congo, why?

by thecarpenter in

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when i first started studying with the jehovah witnesses, although i am a technical, matter of fact type of guy, the thing that got my attention was the genuine love i saw in the congregation (this was in the early 80's).

it made such a impression on me that i ignored some of the serious questions i had about the organization and went ahead and got baptized (i figured things would get sorted out over time and decided to give the society the benefit of the doubt) .

the congregation i went to was a fireball, full of activity and good works and growing fast.

In Between

I have to agree with Drew as well. (I havne't figured out how to use a quote feature here yet) I have seen so much of a difference from the 70's - 80's and now. It doesn't even look like the same organization at times. That's just one of many reasons I started my fade 2 years ago. Conditional love. It's refreshing to see others who have experienced the same thing. I wonder how many others are disturbed by this but still 'clock in' 5 times a week ...

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My Friend is dying

by oldflame in

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two weeks ago a very dear friend of 20 years had a heart attack.

he went to the hospital and they inserted three stents.

we all thought he was going to do well afterwards.

In Between

My condolences. I haven't lost anyone close in a long, long time, but I can sympathize with your pain. When the end does come, allow yourself to grieve but also try to be there for the family. They will appreciate it and it will help you through it.

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teh weekend thread (June 24th - 25th)

by KW13 in

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what are you lot up to?

i am relaxing while playing 'rap' music at high volume in a residential area .

(i meant to put teh not the in the title, its teh coolness)

In Between

I live next to the Rocky Mountains and it's a beautiful day for a drive ... and forget about life for awhile.

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Hello to all ... I've finally decided to sign up

by In Between in

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after alot of time, lurking, fighting this damn inward battle i am dealing with, i've decided to join in the mix.

a little about me (i'll try not to bore you to much) ... i am a fader.

was raised jw, was even a m.s.

In Between

Wow ... I can't thank you all enough for your welcome and thoughts. I am serously touched, and appreciate so many, so quickly, sharing their welcome with me. This is a real emotional time for me, as I'm sure it has been for so many of you. Though I've been 'fading' for some time, there was always that little bit of 'holding on', that last bit of thread as one member put it. I'm not going to D.A. myself. I'm an only child of two parents in their early 70's. It would be too crushing to them and I can't do that after everything they have done for me in my life. For now they just know I'm inactive. I guess the goatee sends that message. And that can start me on another rant ... LOL.

Once again, thanks. I look forward to meeting and getting to know some of my new friends here :)

That is the conclusion that I've come too the last month or so.

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Hello to all ... I've finally decided to sign up

by In Between in

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after alot of time, lurking, fighting this damn inward battle i am dealing with, i've decided to join in the mix.

a little about me (i'll try not to bore you to much) ... i am a fader.

was raised jw, was even a m.s.

In Between

Greetings. After alot of time, lurking, fighting this damn inward battle I am dealing with, I've decided to join in the mix. A little about me (I'll try not to bore you to much) ... I am a fader. Was raised JW, was even a M.S. at one time. I've only been to a K.H. once in two years. Over that last few years, there has been so much *crap* that I have seen and experienced that I simply cannot take it anymore. I'm not a 'geek' by any stretch of the imagination ... but did anyone else here, when watching the last Star Wars movie, feel closely associated with Anakan when he finally made that decision to join the 'dark side'. Everything he had been raised to believe in, the structure, the rules, the guidelines ... at that one moment ... Mace Windu wanted to kill the emperor and Anakan wanted to do 'what was right', but the Jedi Master decided he wanted to take action on his own and ignore the rules. For all my life, I was raised, as an elder's son, to follow the rules, adhere to what was taught, never to question, to blindly believe. Just like young Anakan, I've had enough. Though I've been 'fading' for some time now ... I think with this post, I can start to complete the 'break'. Excuse my rant ... but I can't take it anymore. Why do J.W.'s, who are supposed to 'have love among themselves', that identifying mark, only have 'conditional' love. You know. They are supposed to 'love' their brothers, but only if they are regular at meetings, etc. Once you start fading, it's "Goodbye, and don't let the door hit you in the butt on the way out". Even people that are supposed to be you best friends. Why is it that you are a nobody unless you are an elder or M.S.? Why, when you need help or encouragement, are the B.O.E. nowhere to be found. But, if they think you've done something wrong, they have plenty of time to jump you and try to D.F. or reprove you. I'm not really the type to attack the G.B. or the teachings. I do believe in God. But how can he allow so much hypocrisy to go on under his 'name'. I have so much more of a problem with the people that profess to represent him than anything else. Can someone tell me where Jesus instructed his diciples to have bogus 'restraining' orders against other J.W.'s ... for over 6 years? I'm sorry to dump on you all. Today, my best friend of 10 years (a J.W.) decided that because I have faded over the last year or two, that he is no longer my friend. I thought someone was your friend because of the qualities and interest that you shared with another ... not because you attend 5 meetings a week. Why am I here? Because, I, like many, have been so brainwashed with guilt and fear that I could use a little support. The fear of getting killed at Armageddon still persists. I can't D.A. while my parents are alive ... but today, even though I've been fading for awhile, was the last straw. I need to move on. Now I'm left with the simple question ... now what? Thank you for your time ... I hope to be a positive addition to this board ...